He's got the silver, he's got the gold

I've never been a fan of traditionally defined romantic gestures. Roses and chocolates are great if that's your gig, and they've never hurt anyone, but I just don't respond to them the way I'm "supposed" to react. Fortunately, J shows his love and affection in ways that warm my cockles without feeling forced or prescribed. His overtures tend to be functional with a sweet crunchy coating. So, I'd like to thank him for his most endearing qualities and gestures that are cheese free and full of kindness. Or just plain funny.

He keeps the cars healthy, running, and registered even though he h-a-t-e-s that he was trained as a mechanic.

He volunteers to come with me on laundry trips (washer is still broken--it's a complete dick) even when he's tired after his shift so that I won't be bored.

He remembers what color game piece I like to use when we play Trivial Pursuit.

He talks to my mom and makes her laugh on the phone until I'm finished being up to my elbows in dinner preparation.

He makes my nieces giggle and lets the wee one pet his beard when she gets curious about it.

He always always always soothes the kitties after their monthly flea treatments, and sings to them. If they need to go to the doctor, he talks to them all the way there and all the way home when they're crying and scared.

He helps me remember the entire filmography for actors I can't quite place when we're watching a movie until we hit the character I saw them as.

He confuses Glenn Close with William Hurt without exception. No explanation has been identified for this phenomenon, but I love it.

He researches new movies that are coming out and takes his Netflix list order very seriously.

He loves his little girl much and shows his fatherly adoration sincerely and without pretense.

He doesn't make judgments about people unless they're actively trying to hurt him or his family.

His patience with my "things" knows no bounds.

He watches "America's Funniest Home Videos" and reads Umberto Eco at the same time.

He treats my friends and family with genuine respect.

He researched places for our first date.

He works overnights so that he can read his books when there's a break in the work activity without interruption from co-workers.

So, Babe, with Frank's help, this one's for you. Mwah.